Reasons Why Relationships Fail
It is inevitable for some relationships to end while some last forever. The problem may exist in you or in your partner. Nonetheless, you both should be able to talk things through and have a proper closure. If you don’t, failed relationship will forever haunt you and will keep you thinking about what really went wrong. So, just to give you some hints, here are the top 10 reasons why relationships fail.
Lack of Compatibility
Even though you think that you can work your compatibility throughout the relationship, there will come a time for sure that this will create a rift between you two that would eventually drive you apart. Although some people say that opposites do attract, that does not always work on all relationships. So always make sure that when you enter a relationship, you two are compatible, probably not in all ways but on most.
Getting Serious Quickly
Let’s face it; if you fall for someone, you usually fall pretty hard. You are always on cloud nine and you just want to spend the rest of your life with your partner. The next second you know, you two are living together and planning to get married just after a few months of dating, but only until something goes wrong. It is great to think like that of someone because you always want to be your current partner to be your last, but it’s not great to rush into things. It might just freak the other one out and the relationship will end in a bad note.
Lack of Trust
Trust is the foundation of a relationship. Every couple should know that. If you your partner doesn’t trust you, then something is wrong and the relationship is not going somewhere unless you sort things out. You should not give your partner something to doubt about because that’s the beginning of a doubtful relationship. You know what they say; when there’s smoke, there will always be fire. Both partners should give their complete trust to each other and do everything in their power not to break it. Once it is broken, you can never put it back together the same way.
Not Saying What’s on Your Mind
When in a relationship, we expect our partner to be able to read our minds, especially the girls. But the truth is, they are not mind readers. No one is. So why not make things easier and speak what’s on your mind so you can both do something about what’s bothering him or her and move on already. Sometimes, guys don’t push their girls to say something; they’ll do what they naturally do and just leave you alone until you give in. This will make the relationship go in a bad turn. So put yourself out there and lay your heart out in the table.
This is one of the top reasons why relationships end. When one of the two partners is unfaithful, then the relationship is bound to break up leaving both parties devastated. If this is the reason why partners break up, it is almost impossible to bring them back together. This is the one thing that most people consider as unforgivable because if you really loved your partner, you should have brushed off the temptations and thought about what it could do to your relationship.
No Quality Time
Time also plays a big role in every relationship. This is kind of the whole point of the relationship – to be able to spend time together and get to know each other at the same time. But we all know for a fact that life nowadays can get pretty hectic with deadlines and loads and loads of work to do. These will lead for dates to get cancelled or hangouts to be moved to the next month or so. Obviously, this will create a problem in the relationship. The flame will burn out and you will be left with a strange and cold relationship. Suddenly, you’ll both think that you’ve outgrown each other. This is why spending quality time every chance you get is very important.
Some people think that constant fights would bring up the spice in the relationship, but there are other ways to do it than having to shout at each other all the time. This is very bad for the relationship especially when you just fight over the really small things and you guys just exaggerate over it. These small things would eventually matter, so it is better to talk things through calmly and peacefully. These constant fights will just tire you both and you would want to call it quits just to end the exhaustion of always fighting about something.
Bringing Up Past Issues
When in a relationship, what’s past is past. Try not to bring up resolved issues over and over again, even the unresolved ones. If you truly love your partner, you would be willing to get over the past issues and just concentrate on making happier memories. Bringing up the past will not change it, and you’ll just take back the feelings that have long been forgotten. This might just be the reason why you’ll end up single at the end of the day. So let it go and move on.
Do you always keep score on what you do for your partner and vice versa? Although this can be a positive thing because you always think about what your partner feels; at the larger sense, this can be destructive for the relationship. Being with someone is about give and take. It’s not always about what you received. That’s why there’s this thing called compromise. So let go of the score mentality and just love freely.
Expecting your partner to change for you and getting disappointed can be big deal breaker. So don’t expect anything from the relationship other than trust and love. You would want to be with the person who accepts you for who you are and vice versa. This is what unconditional love is all about.
If you think you’re relationship is experiencing some of these, then it is time to have the talk and figure out where it is going. It is always better to talk about things rather than to just leave them hanging.